Betrayal of trust
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Betrayal of trust is (supposedly) suffered by the (so-called) "victims" of child abuse.
In this sense, the term was originated by those who first promoted the incest narrative, and was then later extended by those promoting the child abuse narrative to so-called survivors of child abuse.
In the incest narrative, the supposed betrayal of trust is described this way: "Female children trust their father. When a father engages in incest by seducing his child, he betrays the child's trust. The child is harmed by the betrayal of her/his trust.""
In the child sexual abuse narrative, the supposed betrayal of trust is described this way:
- "The child trusted you. You engaged in sexual activity with the child. You betrayed the child's trust. The child was harmed by your betrayal of her/his trust."
Legal origins of the term
A "position of trust" originally refers to a relationship involving an adult with legal power over another, or a person in a caretaker position relative to a child.
- A position of trust is any position that requires its holder to enjoy the trust of those who elected or chose the holder. It is often used in a more restricted sense defined by an organization or by legislation.
- According to one common definition, it is any position that has responsibility for "cash, keys, or kids (minors)". The concept of "keys" refers to security, including IT security and management.
- According to another common definition, it is any position of authority over another person or within an organization, for example as a supervisor.
- Crimes committed by a person in a position of trust may be penalized more severely under the law, and those wishing to occupy positions of trust may be subject to special restrictions such as background checks.[...]
A typical position of trust at the personal level involves child custody or power of attorney</a>. The same would be true for the five standard professions; medicine, law, finance, education and engineering.<a href="#cite_note-3"></a> Any regulated profession dealing with the health and safety of others usually requires certification and licensing and would be a position of trust. The same would be true in the hierarchy of relationships involved in education, employment, financial matters and government.
In the United Kingdom, the Sexual Offences Act 2000 prohibits a person in a position of trust from having sexual acts with someone who cannot consent which include minors and "very vulnerable people".<a href="#cite_note-4"></a> This is primarily used for the protection of young people who are above the age of consent but under the age of 18, or those with mental disabilities. Only after that person has left their trust may they pursue a sexual relationship with them.<a href="#cite_note-5"></a><a href="#cite_note-6"></a></p>
In the Netherlands, incest itself is not prosecutable under Dutch Law Citation_needed This claim needs references to reliable sources. (June 2015)]. However, in case of an adult committing incest with a minor, the adult can be prosecuted for abusing his/her position of trust. Under this legislature, an adult does not have to share a biological relation with a minor to be able to be prosecuted for committing incest with said family member. Under this legislature, adults who are family members of a minor by marriage only, can still be prosecuted if committing incest with said minor. One does not have to be biologically related.[Citation_needed. This claim needs references to reliable sources. (June 2015)]</sup>
- Betrayal is the breaking or violation of a presumptive contract, trust, or confidence that produces moral and psychological conflict within a relationship amongst individuals, between organizations or between individuals and organizations.[...]
- Rodger L. Jackson, author of the article, The Sense and Sensibility of Betrayal: Discovering the Meaning of Treachery Through Jane Austen, writes that "there has been surprisingly little written about what we even mean by the term". In psychology</a>, practitioners describe betrayal as the breaking of a social contract; however, critics of this approach claim that the term social contract does not accurately reflect the conditions and motivations for, and effects of, betrayal. Philosophers Judith Shklar and Peter Johnson (philosopher), authors of The Ambiguities of Betrayal and Frames of Deceit respectively, contend that while no clear definition of betrayal is available, betrayal is more effectively understood through literature.<a href="#cite_note-Jackson2000-1"></a>[...]
Theoretical and practical needs
Jackson explains why a clear definition is needed:
- Betrayal is both a "people" problem and a philosopher's problem. Philosophers should be able to clarify the concept of betrayal, compare and contrast it with other moral concepts, and critically assess betrayal situations. At the practical level people should be able to make honest sense of betrayal and also to temper its consequences: to handle it, not be assaulted by it. What we need is a conceptually clear account of betrayal that differentiates between genuine and merely perceived betrayal, and which also provides systematic guidance for the assessment of alleged betrayal in real life.
Ben-Yehuda's 2001 work (Betrayals and Treason Violations of Trust and Loyalty Westview Press) framed all forms of betrayals and treason under a unifying analytical framework using loyalty, trust and moral boundaries as explanatory tools.
- Source of the above: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Betrayal
Common betrayals of children's trust by adults in society
Children who trust their parents and others often have that trust betrayed. It is socially acceptable to betray children's trust. For example, children are taught to believe in mythical creatures, such as Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, etc.
Adults often take great pleasure in seeing how easily they can betray the trust the children have towards them.
It could be argued that this betrayal is actually an "object lesson" for children to learn: Adults cannot be trusted to always tell the truth.
Reactions of children to having their trust betrayed
Children may react differently when they learn the truths about the mythical creatures about which they have been taught. Some feel they were they were simply the butt of a harmless joke. Others may feel strongly disappointed. Some may be traumatized to varying degrees.
Another example of betrayal of trust occurs when an adult deliberately does something that the child would not expect to occur, for example, by picking up a child (the child trusts the adult not to drop it) but then allowing the child to fall.
False and misleading assumptions about "trust" in youth sexual activity with adults
The assumption that some harm comes from the "betrayal" is at the root of the "betrayal of trust" theory as applied to incest and (so-called) "child sexual abuse".
The (now disproved) theory is as follows:
- Sexual activity is harmful to young people.
- Adults are trusted not to harm young people.
- Engaging in sexual activity betrays that trust, which then harms young people.
The fallacy is that sexual activity alone is harmful to young people. While it has been clearly demonstrated that the use of force, violence, or strong coercion when engaged in activities with others may upset a young person, the absence of force, violence, or strong coercion in a sexual interaction between an older person and a younger person has not been found to upset the younger person.
When psych-professionals redefine the sexual activity which occurred in the minds of people as sexual abuse then this is an example of secondary harm, of sociogenic harm. https://www.newgon.com/wiki/Research:_Secondary_Harm
- Child abuse narrative
- Incest narrative
- The Trauma Myth (book)
- Harmful to Minors (book)
- Schemas involved in the child abuse narrative at the blog Angry Millipede, Inc.