BoyLover mistakes leading to arrest and conviction
BoyLovers sometimes do things (or have things done to them) which lead to their being investigated. What happens during the investigation will often determine whether the BoyLover will be arrested, put on trial, and convicted. If you are a BoyLover, this article may be the most important thing that you ever read in your entire life.
DISCLAIMER: Nothing in this article is intended to assist anyone in violating any laws. As a citizen, you are obligated to obey your local laws. The following is for informational and educational purposes only.
- 1 Mistake #1: Talking to the police.
- 2 Mistake #2: Allowing police to enter their home without a search warrant
- 3 Mistake #3: Believing what the police say
- 4 Mistake #4: Trusting the "wrong" people.
- 5 Mistake #5: Being overly generous with gifts, including money
- 6 Mistake #6: Contacting the police when a known boy commits a crime
- 7 Mistake #7: Keeping incriminating evidence on one's computer.
- 8 Mistake #8: Being too obvious about being a BoyLover
- 9 Mistake #9: Staying in the kitchen when it starts to get too hot
- 10 Mistake #10: Sharing semi-legal or illegal things in e-mails
- 11 Mistake #11: E-mailing several BoyLovers from the same e-mail account
- 12 Mistake #12: Giving out personal information on the Internet
- 13 Mistake #13: Not surfing safely
- 14 Mistake #14: Surfing the Internet for BoyLove information in a public place
- 15 Mistake #15: Being careless with BoyLove-related materials
- 16 Mistake #16: Traveling (especially across state lines) to meet an Internet "young friend"
- 17 Mistake #17: Responding to contact from unknown persons
- 18 Mistake #18: Talking to a cellmate
- 19 Mistake #19: Talking openly with your lawyer while you are in detention
- 20 Mistake #20: Downloading boy-related materials and not encrypting them
- 21 Mistake #21: Downloading bit torrent/e-mule/etc. files containing illegal images or videos
- 22 Mistake #22: When a "click" will put a BoyLover in the clink
- 23 Mistake #23: Being careless with Skype/Online chatting/Internet Messaging, etc.
- 24 Mistake #24: Not teaching their "young friends" how the police operate
- 25 See also
- 26 External links
Mistake #1: Talking to the police.
The vast majority of BoyLovers who are convicted of (so-called) "sex crimes" live in the U.S. The Fifth Amendment to the U.S. Constitution guarantees that all citizens have the right to remain silent, and cannot be required to incriminate themselves. You will not be advised of your right to remain silent if you have not been formally arrested.
As most criminal attorneys will advise, you almost never have anything at all to be gained by talking to the police.
By talking to the police, you may waive the right not to incriminate yourself without even being aware you are doing so. This is the single biggest legal mistake BoyLovers make.
Answering any questions from a police officer--aside from giving the officer your name and address--will, under the law, mean you have automatically waived your right to remain silent. Any statements you have made will be held against you in court. You may lose the right to remain silent if you do not use that right immediately at the start of an investigation. You will lose the right to appeal on the grounds of "not incriminating yourself" if you have waived your right to remain silent.
In some jurisdictions, you are legally required to give your name and address to a police officer when questioned. Other jurisdictions do not even require this. Other than giving one's name and address, there is absolutely no necessity to give any other information to a police officer.
Many BoyLovers have accepted a law enforcement officer's "invitation" to go to the police station for an "interview". The police have no legal right to require a person to accompany them to the station unless the person is placed under arrest. The police have no legal right to require a person to talk to them. Any person can decline to be interviewed or to talk to the police.
A person may think that by declining an invitation for an interview with a police officer that they are somehow admitting to the police officer that they are guilty of some kind of crime. This is not true.
People's psychological need to "explain" things
People have a natural inclination to want to "explain" things. The police know this. So the police create situations where they encourage BoyLovers to "explain" things. Most BoyLovers have great difficulty resisting the temptation to try to "explain" things.
The police use a number of very successful techniques to encourage the BoyLover to "explain" things.
To encourage BoyLovers to talk, police may:
- appear to be sympathetic: "I'm sometimes attracted to younger people, too."
- use the "good guy," "bad guy" technique. One officer berates and threatens the BoyLover. After the BoyLover feels threatened and confused, another officer takes the role of the "good guy" and appears sympathetic. Most people fall for this trick.
- suggest (these are lies) that they just would like some information, or would just like to clear things up, and that nothing "bad" will happen to the BoyLover if the BoyLover provides the information.
- threaten the BoyLover by saying, "We can make things really bad for you if you don't talk to us." Unless you are placed under arrest, this is not true. The police--by wanting to talk to you--have shown that they suspect something, either about you or someone you know. The police are going to use any information they acquire from you to further their investigation. By giving information you will only make things easier for them and worse for you.
The simple (not necessarily easy) solution to the problems above is just to refuse to speak at all, and to refuse to answer any questions. This means to just keep one's mouth shut, with the exception of the following words:
- "Am I under arrest? I would like to leave now, and if I am not under arrest then I am going to leave now."
The BoyLover should say absolutely nothing else. Eventually the police will become frustrated, and they will let you leave. But this may take several hours, and requires the BoyLover to maintain his resolve and his equilibrium, no matter what the police say.
One technique suggested by (if memory serves this Editor) the ACLU is to stare at a point on the wall, and imagine seeing a sign that says, "The police are not your friends! Be strong! Do not talk to them!"
Another option (especially if they show up at your doorstep without a warrant, but just wanting to "talk") is to ask for the detective's business card and say, "My attorney will get in touch with you." If they ask, "Don't you want to cooperate?" you can simply repeat your statement, "My attorney will get in touch with you." You need not actually follow through with having your lawyer contact him, but you have effectively "lawyered up" by saying this. (They don't want to talk to your attorney anyway, so it's a moot point.)
Making "false statements" to a law enforcement official ("LEO")
If one answers any questions at all asked by a LEO, one runs the risk of being entrapped into "lying to a LEO"--which itself is a punishable crime!
You can be charged with (this, or something similar):
Willfully and knowingly make a materially false, fictitious, and fraudulent statement and representation in a matter within the jurisdiction of the executive branch of the Government of the United States.
To be "interviewed" by a LEO means to be "interrogated," but without previously being warned of one's Miranda right to "remain silent".
Only if you are arrested will you (usually, but not always) be advised of the following:
- “You have the right to remain silent. Anything you say can and will be used against you in a court of law. You have the right to an attorney. If you cannot afford an attorney, one will be provided for you. Do you understand the rights I have just read to you? With these rights in mind, do you wish to speak to me?”
Some BoyLovers have (naïvely and/or foolishly) agreed to be "interviewed," and have made statements that were (perhaps) not 100% truthful--and then the BoyLovers have been prosecuted, tried, and convicted to prison for lying to the LEO which is a separate crime from whatever the police were initially investigating. DO NOT TALK TO THE POLICE!
Admitting one's attraction to boys
This is perhaps the single most serious mistake that a BoyLover can make! Many "crimes" that a BoyLover can be charged with involve the intent of the so-called "perpetrator".
For example, two different people may happen to touch a boy--in exactly the same way. It need not be the boy's genitals that are touched--it may be something as innocent as placing one's hand on the knee of a boy seated beside you.
The first person does this "innocently". He is not a BoyLover.
The second person, a BoyLover, (foolishly) admits to the police that he found the boy to be cute/attractive/sexy etc.
BINGO! The BoyLover is now guilty of having touched the boy "for sexual gratification"! Once a BoyLover makes the admission that a boy was attractive to him, GAME OVER! The BoyLover has CONFESSED! He will be found guilty when brought to trial, without any other evidence necessary! There is absolutely no way to defend oneself in this situation. Case closed!
Never admit to a police officer that boys are attractive! You may be tricked into making this statement. You should just never talk to the police! Period!
Mistake #2: Allowing police to enter their home without a search warrant
Police must have either (1) a valid search warrant, or (2) your consent, to enter your home (or to search your vehicle). No BoyLover should ever allow a police officer to enter their home or search their vehicle if the police cannot show that they have a valid search warrant. Never!
NOTE: See the Google search link below in the "External links" section ("Never talk to the police..."). You will find links to information which tell you how you should deal with the police when they try to question you, or when the police knock on your door.
Mistake #3: Believing what the police say
Police will lie to you. It is perfectly legal for police to lie to you. It is the job of the police to try to detain those who violate laws. Police will say anything to make you believe that you are in a hopeless situation, and that you have no choice but to give them information or to "confess" your "crimes."
The police may lie and say that they can arrest you if you don't "explain things". Even if they could arrest you, being arrested--though traumatic and expensive--is a much better alternative than talking too much and giving the police information which they can use to put you in prison.
One of the "tricks" the police use on BoyLovers is to claim that "the boy already told us everything, so you may as well talk, too." (They use the same trick on the boy, as well!) Most probably, the boy will not have "talked"--if the boy does, there would be no need to interrogate the BoyLover any longer!
Or the police will say to the BoyLover, "If you really loved the boy, you would want to save the boy from having to... (be interrogated/testify in court/etc.) The fact is that the police are lying to you--they will do whatever they want, for example, interrogate the boy, no matter what you say or do.
Remember: it is the job of the police to investigate and to obtain information. But it is not your job to help them to do this. The police must find evidence they think will prove you are guilty--and until then, you are (supposedly) presumed to be innocent. You must keep your mouth firmly shut! You should not be talking to them at all!
Mistake #4: Trusting the "wrong" people.
BoyLovers are the natural prey for the predatory police, or for vigilantes. If you are suspected of being a BoyLover then the police or vigilantes will often try to trick you by having someone attempt to become "your friend." The goals are to:
- get you to admit to them your sexual attraction to boys
- obtain the names of boys whom you are friends with
- obtain incriminating evidence from the you--e.g. pictures of boys which are either semi-legal or illegal.
The obvious way to avoid these problems is to trust no one. This is very difficult for most people to do, and eliminates the opportunity to share one's feelings, experiences, etc. with others, especially others with similar interests. But this may be the price one has to pay in today's world for being a BoyLover. Forums exist on the Internet where BoyLovers can express their feelings.
Remember what Lyndon B. Johnson, the late president of the U.S. said:
- "I never trust anyone until I have his pecker in my pocket."*
Cruel as this may sound, the fact is that if you can hurt someone worse than they can hurt you, then they probably will not try to hurt you.
* "Pecker" is slang for "penis". Other versions of this quote substitute "balls" (testicles) for "pecker".
"Outing" oneself to friends or relatives
A BoyLover should be extremely careful when telling friends or relatives that he is attracted to boys. See: Coming Out Many people who learn that someone is a BoyLover (mistakenly) assume that this means that the man is a "walking time bomb" who will always go on to then molest boys (this is not true).
Some people will consider themselves to be "Good Samaritans" by reporting BoyLovers to the authorities--even mothers have been known to "turn in" their sons to the police "for their son's own good". A BoyLover should always (discreetly) discover the attitudes and beliefs of others towards and about "pedophiles" before disclosing that he himself is a BoyLover.
Even if a BoyLover is very careful, and "outs" himself only to someone whom he can trust, the possibility exists that that person may then share this information with others who cannot be trusted. The BoyLover may then be reported to the police by this "third person".
Mistake #5: Being overly generous with gifts, including money
Most BoyLovers, above all else, want the boys they know to be happy. BoyLovers are tempted to be overly generous with gifts the boys enjoy, and with money. This is usually a bad thing for two reasons:
- 1) It can tend to spoil the boy. It is more valuable--to the boy, in the long run--that the boy like the BoyLover for the friendship that the BoyLover provides to the boy, rather than for any material things the that BoyLover can provide to the boy. It's the same with pets--you can get a dog to like you if you always feed him "treats," but then the question becomes, does the dog like you or does the dog like the treats you give him?
- 2) Unfortunately, we live in a mixed-up, crazy world. When adults notice that a boy has new things (especially expensive things) all kinds of alarms are likely to go off in the adult's mind. Alarms that a BoyLover does not want to go off!
The fact is that material goods, while they may provide pleasure to the boy in the short term, are not nearly as valuable or memorable as the experiences shared together by the BoyLover and the boy. For example, one BoyLover took a Cambodian refugee boy to a first-class 3-ring American circus, for the boy's first time. That is a memory that the boy will never forget, while the gift of an expensive Walkman will later be easily forgotten.
When some (highly experienced) BoyLovers wish to give a material gift to a boy, they make it a point to check with the boy first, and to determine exactly how the boy is going to "explain" the origins of the gift to the adults (and the other boys) around him. For this reason, it may be best to give gifts which are (or seem to be) "second hand."
BoyLovers who are too lavish with gifts draw unnecessary (and potentially very dangerous) attention to themselves, and also risk having the boy end up mainly liking the gifts and not the BoyLover himself.
In the short run, it is much better to seem quite poor to the new boys one meets--this tends to quickly weed out the boys who are "gold diggers," and also the highly manipulative boys (who tend to be dangerous) from among the new boys one meets.
Mistake #6: Contacting the police when a known boy commits a crime
The police assume that no "normal" adult (other than a family member) has (or should have) any contact with boys. Therefore, if the police discover that a man has had any contact with a boy, the man is assumed to be a "child molester". If a boy whom a BoyLover has any contact with--either long-term, or casual--commits a crime which the BoyLover is the victim of (most commonly, theft) then the police will interrogate the boy and usually will not stop interrogating the boy until the police can bully the boy into incriminating the man--whether or not the man is a BoyLover, and whether or not the man has engaged in any sexual activity with the boy.
The boy will be given immunity from prosecution for the crime he had committed in return for implicating/testifying against the BoyLover. It may be difficult to lose a large sum of money, or have one's car stolen, but contacting the police is very likely to create very serious problems--and cost much more money in the long run. A BoyLover should not expect "justice" in this situation.
Mistake #7: Keeping incriminating evidence on one's computer.
There are several kinds of incriminating evidence a BoyLover may keep on his computer. These include:
- pictures of boys, whether legal or illegal.
- copies of e-mails from other BoyLovers
- copies of BoyLover-related materials (such as BoyLover magazines, etc.).
There exist strong encryption programs that (if used correctly) prevent anyone from accessing certain materials on your computer--TrueCrypt (which has now been rebranded as CipherShedexternal link),for example. Using such encryption is legal in most jurisdictions, but not all.
If a BoyLover has any kinds of incriminating materials like those mentioned above stored on his computer--and the information is not encrypted--then he should never take his computer in for repair, unless he removes the hard disk first and replaces it with an "innocent" one.
Mistake #8: Being too obvious about being a BoyLover
Many BoyLovers have attracted unnecessary attention to themselves. For example, neighbors may notice boys visiting a BoyLover's home, without an obvious reason for the boy to do so. The neighbors may then report their suspicions to the police. BoyLovers should assure that any boys visiting them have an obvious (and valid) reason to do so--for example, offering tutoring to boys, having boys do yard work, etc.
Mistake #9: Staying in the kitchen when it starts to get too hot
Many BoyLovers have had the opportunity to move (and leave no forwarding address) when the situation seemed to be becoming dangerous to the security of the BoyLover. Usually the BoyLover does not wish to lose what he has in terms of employment, friends, etc.
But the BoyLover should keep in mind in mind one very important thing: if he is arrested (or even just investigated) he will probably lose all those things anyway. If convicted, he will lose all those things and much more.
Many BoyLovers have "cut and run" when problems seem to be developing, and therefore have avoided further problems. Some have even left the country (while they still possessed valid passport--your passport will be confiscated, and your name put on a "stop" list if you are under investigation, so you will not be able to leave the country ).
Mistake #10: Sharing semi-legal or illegal things in e-mails
Any BoyLover doing this is inviting very serious trouble. Most email providers automatically scan all images against a child porn database. Gmail for example "revealed Monday that it's created a digital database of images displaying child sexual abuse, which it compares to images sent via Gmail. In that case, images of child pornography are matched against its database and reported to law enforcement." Hachman, Mark. ""How Google handles child pornography in Gmail, search"". Retrieved on 2016-04-30.
Mistake #11: E-mailing several BoyLovers from the same e-mail account
When you have sex with someone you are (in terms of disease exposure) having sex with everyone else that person has sex with.
This is also true of e-mail. If you e-mail more than one other BoyLover from one single e-mail account, then if your e-mail is investigated, all the BoyLovers you e-mailed to from that account will be investigated as well.
Keep a separate e-mail account for each BoyLover you correspond with. Use separate passwords for each account. Keep the names of the e-mail accounts in an encrypted file (along with the passwords). WinRar allows strong password encryption of files--use it!
Don't share your bad luck (if you are investigated) with every other BoyLover whom you know!
Never use the same e-mail account for real-life personal affairs that you use for BoyLove-related activities!
You also can encrypt your e-mails using PGP software on your own computer. See the "See also" section for a link.
Mistake #12: Giving out personal information on the Internet
If you are a BoyLover and you post your personal details on the Internet, this is very dangerous. Your life as a BoyLover and your life as "an ordinary citizen" should always be kept completely separate on the Internet. Nothing posted on the Internet should ever connect the BoyLover's identity to his real-life identity.
Mistake #13: Not surfing safely
See Computer security.
Mistake #14: Surfing the Internet for BoyLove information in a public place
If you are in public, and the screen of the computer you are using is visible to others, then someone may report you if they see you are viewing/downloading anything to do with boys or BoyLovers!
Always ensure that no-one can see what is on your screen!
Forgetting a USB "pen drive" at an Internet café or a university library--where the pen drive contains boy pictures and information about the BoyLover--is an almost certain way for the BoyLover to become the subject of a police investigation. Other materials (diaries, notebooks, etc.) containing information about boys and the BoyLover should be guarded with one's life! "Losing" these sorts of things, again, is almost certain to start a police investigation.
Also, anything even slightly incriminating in the materials mentioned above will give the police an excuse to get a search warrant. Your home/car/etc. will then be searched, your computers/cellphones/storage devices/etc. will be confiscated, and if anything even slightly illegal is found, you will be prosecuted!
Always keep copies of important information which you have stored on your computer somewhere else (on a pen drive at a friend's house, for example or on a pen drive hidden outside your home,--and password protected.)
To get your computers/mobile phones/etc. back after a search means hiring an expensive lawyer. It may be cheaper, easier, and better to just forget them. That is why you need copies of important information stored in a secure place, including the address book information from your mobile phone.
During a search, the police will also trash your home, and leave it a complete mess. They can legally do this. Police have also been known to steal expensive items during searches. You should always keep a record of all your expensive items (a photo of them, and the receipt for purchase) because then you can get a bit of revenge by filing suit against the police for theft. Perhaps one of the officers will then even lose his job! It is only a small compensation for the big trouble they caused you, but at least it is something...
Mistake #16: Traveling (especially across state lines) to meet an Internet "young friend"
If a BoyLover makes an new on-line "young friend," and attempts to meet that friend in person, the BoyLover may find himself the victim of an Internet police "sting". One should always go to very great lengths to confirm the identity (and age) of any boy before one travels to meet the boy!. The police have been known to substitute a boy they have coached during telephone conversations with a BoyLover, and of supplying images of real boys as false "proof" of their (supposed) identity as a boy.
If a BoyLover does attempt to meet an Internet "young friend" in person, the BoyLover should never carry on his person or have in his car any of the following items:
- any lubricants of any kind
- any weapons of any kind (including pocket knives, etc.)
- anything that could be interpreted as being related to sado-masochism--no rope of any kind, no masking tape, etc. (The BoyLover may have these things for completely innocent purposes, but that is not what the police will say in court.)
- any "gifts" that are obviously for the new friend (they can be bought at the destination)
- alcoholic beverages
- any other BoyLove-related materials.
If it is a "sting," then any of the above items will be considered "proof" that the BoyLover intended to have sex with the minor--nothing other than just the presence of these items will be necessary to get a conviction in court. Worse, the BoyLover may be accused of having planned to kidnap the boy (if rope/tape/etc. are found) and more serious criminal charges will be filed against the BoyLover (intent to kidnap the "victim," etc.)
Mistake #17: Responding to contact from unknown persons
Sometimes the Postal Inspectors may acquire the contact information of a BoyLover, either from mailing lists, from Internet sites, from the address lists of other BoyLovers (who are being investigated), etc.
If you ever receive a message such as, "Someone recommended that I contact you because we have similar interests, and so..." then the best thing to do is to completely ignore such a message! If one of your friends is going to recommend you to someone, he should introduce that person to you in a message to you.
If you ever receive a message from an unknown party which asks anything about your sexual preferences, your "Age of Attraction," etc., then the best thing to do is to completely ignore such a message! Most likely you are being "set up" to be entrapped by the police.
If you ever receive an unsolicited package in the mail, especially if it seems to contain a magazine etc. (it may have a foreign return address on it) be very very careful before opening it. If it does contain illegal materials, and you open it, you will be subject to prosecution.
Never sign a receipt for delivery of an unsolicited package, such as one described above. By signing for it, you acknowledge having received it. This can be used as evidence against you if the package contains illegal materials.
If your curiosity gets the best of you, then put the package in the trash can in your house (if you have to, you can claim later that you didn't know what it was, so you just "threw it away as trash mail"). Leave it there for a day. If nothing happens, then open the package. If it contains illegal materials, immediately burn the materials until only ashes remain, and flush the ashes down the toilet.
Mistake #18: Talking to a cellmate
After a BoyLover has been arrested, the police will often deliberately place someone in the BoyLover's cell to try to gather more information on him and his "crimes". The "cellmate" may even claim to be another BoyLover. A BoyLover should never discuss his case (or anything about his young friends, his personal life, etc.) with anyone else whom he meets while he is in detention!
If one does talk to one's "cellmate," one may later be very surprised to find his former "cellmate" on the witness stand, testifying against him!
U.S. Sentencing Guidelines Section 5K1.1 and Federal Rule of Criminal Procedure 35 allow for significant sentence reductions for snitching on cellmates. Prisoners can and will give testimony that will put you in prison for decades, to get a few months taken off their own sentences.
Mistake #19: Talking openly with your lawyer while you are in detention
You do not have a right to privacy when you are in detention. Always assume that your conversations with everyone--your lawyer, your family, etc.-- are being recorded, to use against you in court. If necessary, you may write something on a piece of paper, and allow the lawyer/family member to read the message before eating the piece of paper. You may need to be careful about the cameras in the room, so write in very small writing. (Tip: Choose a thin piece of paper, one which will be easy to quickly chew and swallow.)
The above also applies to any phone calls you may make from detention. They will be recorded, and anything incriminating that you say will be used against you in court.
- See also: Encryption
Pictures of boys may be downloaded from many sources, but those pictures will be used during any investigations, or at trial, to support the presumption that a man is a BoyLover and has probably "molested" boys. Any images of boys--no matter what type--should only be stored on a BoyLover's computer using TrueCrypt or another strong form of file encryption, and ensuring that these encryption programs are used correctly!
The above also applies to any other information or materials relating to BoyLove--for example, NAMBLA materials or posts from BoyChat.
Mistake #21: Downloading bit torrent/e-mule/etc. files containing illegal images or videos
It is somewhat difficult and complicated to download P2P (Peer-to-Peer) files anonymously.
This means that, normally, any time an illegal file is downloaded using bit torrent, e-mule, or another P2P file-sharing program, a record is kept by the police of the IP address of the downloader.
Downloading illegal materials by these methods is one of the common mistakes many BoyLovers make, and leads to many arrests and convictions.
If a BoyLover visits a web site on the Internet, and sees a link that says something like, "11-year-old boy f**cking 9-year-old sister, HOT PICS!" and the BoyLover then simply clicks on that link, then he has just committed a very serious crime, even if the link is fake, and leads nowhere.
In today's world, the law not only prohibits what a person may do, but also what a person may attempt or intend to do. Attempting to view or download illegal material is illegal in the U.S., even when no material is actually viewed or downloaded.
By clicking such a link, the ISP address of the BoyLover will be recorded by law enforcement officials, and the BoyLover will be prosecuted, and with an almost 100% certainty of being convicted.
A link such as the above may also be included in an e-mail message sent to the BoyLover (by law enforcement officials). Clicking on such a link in an e-mail message is the same as clicking on such a link on a web page.
Also, always use a web-based e-mail service (accessed using Tor) , and not the e-mail program which is included in Windows--which may betray your real ISP address.
- See also:
Mistake #23: Being careless with Skype/Online chatting/Internet Messaging, etc.
A BoyLover may be tempted to communicate with other BoyLovers using using Skype, IM (Internet Messaging), etc. BoyLovers should be aware that:
- Skype is not "secure". Copies of all messages can be kept by the police.
- Any communication with anyone else (with other BoyLovers, with boys, etc.) using these kinds of messaging systems is risky for a BoyLover--others may be monitoring and recording the conversations. A BoyLover should never say anything that is incriminating during these forms of communication. Neither should he expose his real-life identity unless he is absolutely certain he can trust the person he is communicating with.
A note on talking on the phone with a "young friend" whom you know.
- You should always assume that the calls are being recorded by the police, even if you think that it is very unlikely that they are.
- Police, when investigating a suspected BoyLover, will very often coerce the BoyLover's "young friend" to call the BoyLover and ask questions that, if answered, are admissions of the BoyLover's "guilt". (This may even happen after the BoyLover has become aware that he is being investigated.)
- If a "young friend" calls you (especially if he sounds nervous) and asks questions like:
- You still think that I'm sexy, don't you?
- Don't you want to have sex again with me, like we did last month?
- Remember the time you sucked me off and ...
- etc. etc.
... then do not answer any questions of these types. It may be a trap, and the call may be being recorded by the police to get evidence to get a search warrant, or to use in court.
Of course, it may not be a trap. As a matter of course, a BoyLover should always be courteous and considerate to his young friend. Politely decline to talk about certain subjects with him on the phone, and suggest that certain topics are "not appropriate" for discussions on the phone. Or ignore the questions, and change the topic immediately. (This may be the best way to avoid problems.)
If the police are investigating a BoyLover (which often can happen without the Boylover's knowledge), the police may coerce the boy into wearing "a wire" (a concealed microphone with a transmitter or a recording device attached to it.)
If a "young friend" seems nervous or uneasy, and starts to steer the conversation towards potentially incriminating topics, it may be best to change the topic of conversation immediately. (Of course, if the boy is wearing only a Speedo it is not likely that he is wearing "a wire".)
Also, "wires" can be planted in the boy's house by the police. If you are at the boy's house, and the boy seems unusually nervous, you may want to suggest that you take the boy out to a public place to talk. Wide-open public places are usually quite safe (in a field, in a large park, etc.).
In the unlikely event that a boy (somewhat strangely) insists on you accompanying him to one particular public place, and seating yourselves in one particular seating arrangement, you may want to be careful. The police may "have the place wired".
The above precautions assume that the BoyLover is under investigation. Few BoyLovers are actually ever investigated by the police. But it is important for BoyLover's to just keep these precautions in mind.
One way that secret agents and "spies" have handled this kind of situation, a situation involving suspicion that one of them may be being coerced by the police, is to have a "secret word" or phrase which, if mentioned in the conversation, warns the other person that the first person is being coerced by the police and that the conversation is being monitored. An example of the use of a key word or phrase is the following: The one being coerced asks the other, "Remember our friend Geronimo? He moved to New York." ("Geronimo" is the key word in this example, and using it warns the other.)
Alternatively, the one who suspects that the other is being coerced may use the same technique. He may ask, "Have you heard from Puddinghead lately?" If the one being coerced answers "Yes," then he indicates by answering "yes" that he is being coerced.
Isn't it strange that BoyLovers may have to act like spies or secret agents with their friends, just because they like boys?
Mistake #24: Not teaching their "young friends" how the police operate
It is not illegal to teach young people about the tactics that police use in today's world (including the information contained in this article). In fact, all young people should learn to protect themselves from coercive police techniques. Doing so may save them from great harm at the hands of the legal authorities! Young people have basically the same rights regarding talking to (or, rather, not talking to) the police as do adults. Young people should learn (and this means that they should be taught--by you, if you are a BoyLover--to exercise their rights!
- See also:
- The following provides some very important information for BoyLovers regarding police procedures:
- When "making friends" becomes a "crime"!
- Miranda rights (your right to remain silent)
- Top Ten Deadliest Boylover Beliefs
- Browser security
- How not to accidentally out yourself
- Entrapment (dictionary)
- Privacy Freeware
- BoyLovers making friends with boys: Tips for successful friendships
- Other articles/essays by this Editor (also including minor edits of other articles):
- The Tor browser bundle (Allows safe, anonymous web browsing (when used correctly)
- http://www.mirandawarning.org/whatareyourmirandarights.html You have the right to remain silent!
- Never talk to the police! This google search link will give you links to sites which tell you why! If you are a BoyLover, click the link right now and inform yourself! The information could even save your life!
*The TrueCrypt free, open-source software encryption website:
- WinRar archiving software, with strong password-encryption capability:
- PGP encryption software (for encrypting e-mail, etc.)
- For information on how corrupted police interrogation is in the American "[in]justice" system, see the book Police Interrogation and American Justice by Richard A. Leo
- Here is information on how secure "Internet messaging" services are:
- Privacy is becoming harder to find in the world. Today everyone, everywhere is monitored all the time, by everything from the closed circuit recording system at the local store, to digital imaging systems at banks, the subway, and street corners... [Read more at the link, but DO NOT use that software (it is now outdated), use (the [former] TrueCrypt, now rebranded as CipherShed):
- Two websites with interesting and relevant information for BoyLovers:
- This article has been archived (but without the latest corrections/additions) at: