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'''Boylove''' has it origins in [[Boylove in antiquity|antiquity]] and is the term that has been chosen by [[boylover]]s themselves to describe the strong feelings of affection and attraction (usually including a sexual component) that many adults (especially males) feel towards [[boy]]s.
'''Boylove''' has it origins in [[Boylove in antiquity|antiquity]] and is the term that has been chosen by [[boylover]]s themselves to describe the strong feelings of affection and attraction (usually including a sexual component) that many adults (especially males) feel towards [[boy]]s.


Until modern times, boylove was not usually criminalized in most cultures, especially outside of the [[axis of evil]] countries. Boylove was usually accepted as a somewhat unusual, though harmless, form of sexual interaction between men and boys. Boys were seen as often actively seeking out the attention of men for the emotional satisfactions that this provided to the boys (and often the associated economic benefits) in order for the boys to better their own lives, which included providing a source of relief from sexual tensions which boys were denied other outlets to. Until modern times, boys granted sexual [[agency]].
Until modern times, boylove was not usually criminalized in most cultures, especially outside of the [[axis of evil]] countries. Boylove was usually accepted as a somewhat unusual, though harmless, form of emotional and sexual interaction between men and boys. Boys were seen as often actively seeking out the attention of men for the emotional satisfactions that this provided to the boys (and often the associated economic benefits, as well) in order for the boys to better their own lives, which included the boylover providing a source of relief from sexual tensions which boys were denied other outlets to <ref> See Parker Rossman's book, and his [[The Pederast (magazine article)]].</ref> Until modern times, boys were usually granted sexual [[agency]].


It has been suggested that the Western (as well as Near Eastern and Far Easterns) origins of "boylove" may have been Indo-European tribal customs.<ref>http://www.williamapercy.com/wiki/images/Greek1indo.rtf "Indo-European Pederasty - Williamapercy.com"</ref>  
It has been suggested that the Western (as well as Near Eastern and Far Easterns) origins of "boylove" may have been Indo-European tribal customs.<ref>http://www.williamapercy.com/wiki/images/Greek1indo.rtf "Indo-European Pederasty - Williamapercy.com"</ref>  


"Boylove" supplants the pejorative term "[[pedophilia]]" as well as includes the concepts of "[[hebephilia]]s"/[[pederasty]]. The term dissociates itself from the negative connotations of the modern-day clinical term "pedophilia," and more accurately defines the exclusive focus of the attraction, which is to male children and adolescents.  
"Boylove" supplants the pejorative term "[[pedophilia]]" as well as includes the concepts of "[[hebephilia]]"/[[pederasty]]. The term dissociates itself from the negative connotations of the modern-day clinical term "pedophilia," and more accurately defines the exclusive focus of the attraction, which is to male children and adolescents.  


Boylovers commonly assert that boylove is a natural phenomenon that it has existed throughout all of human history, and is similar in nature to other accepted sexual orientations.  <ref>Seto recently wrote about pedophilia as an orientation. The complete reference is necessary here. The DSM once defined pedophilia as a sexual orientation, too, but quickly backtracked when attacked by radical third-wave feminists. Reference needed to the controversy. </ref> Many other serious researchers have agreed.<ref>Could they ALL have been WRONG? (2005) David L. Riegel, SafeHaven Foundation Press: Philadelphia, ISBN 0-9676997-2-X</ref> While boylove usually includes feelings of physical/sexual attraction to boys, boylove itself does not require, nor imply, sexual activity with boys.  Boylove can be completely platonic, as the main concern of many or most boylovers includes providing love and guidance to boys{{cite}}, though some have claimed that ''without'' the sexual element, "boylove" would simply be a description of the normal protective feelings which adults usually feel towards young males.
There has been a fierce debate (a "cultural war") between [[antisexuals]] (including [[homophobes]]) and sexual liberals regarding the possible (actually, the ''proven'') benefits and the potential (in fact, mostly disproved) drawbacks of boylove to boys in modern times.


There has been a fierce debate on the nature of boylove in modern times. There are some who believe boylove is simply a noun for adults who are emotionally and physically attracted to boys and that there are no particular guidelines or requirements for classifying a person as a boylover, aside from feeling a strong attraction to (and usually a very strong aversion to hurting) boys. Others believe boylove, in addition to the attraction, should include a set of ethical beliefs and values related to the treatment of boys, and that one must adhere to these expectations to be considered a proper boylover.<ref>[[Philosophy of responsible boylove|The Philosophy of Responsible Boylove]]</ref> These ethical values may include prescriptions such as boylovers never exposing boys to alcohol and drugs, boylovers never initiating sexual activities with boys, and even that boylovers should always refrain from sexual contact with boys due to the potential legal risks to the boylover, and the (assumed and mostly disproved) "psychological harms" which the boy is (wrongly) said to be subject to. Universally accepted, however, is the idea that boylovers usually highly respect boys, and seek to avoid harming them.{{cite}} It is a serious error to assume that boylove is simply another form of [[child abuse]].
Boylovers (along with many other serious researchers in the field of sexology) commonly assert that boylove is a natural phenomenon which has existed throughout all of human history, and is similar in nature to other sexual orientations.  <ref>Seto recently wrote about pedophilia as an orientation. The complete reference is necessary here. The DSM once defined pedophilia as a sexual orientation, too, but quickly backtracked when attacked by radical third-wave feminists. Reference needed here to the controversy. </ref> Many other serious researchers have agreed as well.<ref>Could they ALL have been WRONG? (2005) David L. Riegel, SafeHaven Foundation Press: Philadelphia, ISBN 0-9676997-2-X</ref> While boylove usually includes feelings of physical/sexual attraction to boys, many [[virped]] boylovers claim that boylove itself may not require, or even imply, sexual activity with boys.  Boylove can be, to some, thought of as purely platonic, as the main concern of many or most boylovers includes providing love and guidance to boys{{cite}}, though some have claimed that ''without'' the sexual element, "boylove" would simply be a description of the normal protective feelings which male adults usually feel towards younger prepubescent and post-pubescent males.
 
There are some who assert that boylove is simply a noun for adults who are emotionally and physically attracted to boys, and that there should be no particular guidelines or requirements necessary for classifying a person as a boylover, aside from a man feeling a strong physical and emotional attraction to (and usually a very strong aversion to hurting) boys. Others believe boylove, in addition to the physical attraction, should include a set of ethical beliefs and values related to the treatment of boys, and that one must adhere to these expectations to be considered a "proper" boylover.<ref>[[Philosophy of responsible boylove|The Philosophy of Responsible Boylove]]</ref> These proposed ethical values may include a number of prescriptions, such as boylovers never exposing boys to alcohol or drugs, boylovers never initiating sexual activities with boys, and even that boylovers should always refrain from sexual contact with boys due to the potential legal risks (especially in Western countries) to the boylover, and the (alleged, though mostly disproved) <ref>Rind, et al.</ref> "psychological harms" which the boy is (mistakenly) said to usually be subject to.  
 
Generally accepted, however, is the idea that boylovers usually are highly respectful towards boys, are kind to boys, and seek to avoid harming boys. Therefore it is a very serious error to assume that boylove is simply another form of [[child abuse]].


== Foreign-language terms for "boylove ==
== Foreign-language terms for "boylove ==

Revision as of 00:47, 7 May 2016

Boylove has it origins in antiquity and is the term that has been chosen by boylovers themselves to describe the strong feelings of affection and attraction (usually including a sexual component) that many adults (especially males) feel towards boys.

Until modern times, boylove was not usually criminalized in most cultures, especially outside of the axis of evil countries. Boylove was usually accepted as a somewhat unusual, though harmless, form of emotional and sexual interaction between men and boys. Boys were seen as often actively seeking out the attention of men for the emotional satisfactions that this provided to the boys (and often the associated economic benefits, as well) in order for the boys to better their own lives, which included the boylover providing a source of relief from sexual tensions which boys were denied other outlets to [1] Until modern times, boys were usually granted sexual agency.

It has been suggested that the Western (as well as Near Eastern and Far Easterns) origins of "boylove" may have been Indo-European tribal customs.[2]

"Boylove" supplants the pejorative term "pedophilia" as well as includes the concepts of "hebephilia"/pederasty. The term dissociates itself from the negative connotations of the modern-day clinical term "pedophilia," and more accurately defines the exclusive focus of the attraction, which is to male children and adolescents.

There has been a fierce debate (a "cultural war") between antisexuals (including homophobes) and sexual liberals regarding the possible (actually, the proven) benefits and the potential (in fact, mostly disproved) drawbacks of boylove to boys in modern times.

Boylovers (along with many other serious researchers in the field of sexology) commonly assert that boylove is a natural phenomenon which has existed throughout all of human history, and is similar in nature to other sexual orientations. [3] Many other serious researchers have agreed as well.[4] While boylove usually includes feelings of physical/sexual attraction to boys, many virped boylovers claim that boylove itself may not require, or even imply, sexual activity with boys. Boylove can be, to some, thought of as purely platonic, as the main concern of many or most boylovers includes providing love and guidance to boys[Citation needed], though some have claimed that without the sexual element, "boylove" would simply be a description of the normal protective feelings which male adults usually feel towards younger prepubescent and post-pubescent males.

There are some who assert that boylove is simply a noun for adults who are emotionally and physically attracted to boys, and that there should be no particular guidelines or requirements necessary for classifying a person as a boylover, aside from a man feeling a strong physical and emotional attraction to (and usually a very strong aversion to hurting) boys. Others believe boylove, in addition to the physical attraction, should include a set of ethical beliefs and values related to the treatment of boys, and that one must adhere to these expectations to be considered a "proper" boylover.[5] These proposed ethical values may include a number of prescriptions, such as boylovers never exposing boys to alcohol or drugs, boylovers never initiating sexual activities with boys, and even that boylovers should always refrain from sexual contact with boys due to the potential legal risks (especially in Western countries) to the boylover, and the (alleged, though mostly disproved) [6] "psychological harms" which the boy is (mistakenly) said to usually be subject to.

Generally accepted, however, is the idea that boylovers usually are highly respectful towards boys, are kind to boys, and seek to avoid harming boys. Therefore it is a very serious error to assume that boylove is simply another form of child abuse.

Foreign-language terms for "boylove

  • (more to be added)
  • Albanian: Ashik
  • Japanese: Shounen'ai (少年愛)

References

  1. See Parker Rossman's book, and his The Pederast (magazine article).
  2. http://www.williamapercy.com/wiki/images/Greek1indo.rtf "Indo-European Pederasty - Williamapercy.com"
  3. Seto recently wrote about pedophilia as an orientation. The complete reference is necessary here. The DSM once defined pedophilia as a sexual orientation, too, but quickly backtracked when attacked by radical third-wave feminists. Reference needed here to the controversy.
  4. Could they ALL have been WRONG? (2005) David L. Riegel, SafeHaven Foundation Press: Philadelphia, ISBN 0-9676997-2-X
  5. The Philosophy of Responsible Boylove
  6. Rind, et al.

See also

External links