List of deceptive and derogatory terminology directed at boylovers

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This page contains a list of derogatory phrases, buzzwords, and other terminology frequently employed in the media and by others to awfulize [1] boylove and inter-generational relationships. Some of these words may be considered hate speech and are frequently used to deprive boylovers of their basic human and civil rights.

Buzz words and phrases

  • Grooming
  • Pedophile ring
  • Normalization of pedophilia
  • Sexual predator
  • Betrayal of trust
  • Protecting children's innocence
  • Save the children (Wikipedia article here--"Think of the children"--needs to be adapted for BoyWiki)
  • Sexual violence
  • Traumatic sexualization
  • Powerlessness
  • Stigmatization
  • Reconceptualize
  • Framing
  • Sexually interfere (with a child) See Sexually interfering with a child is a myth
  • Sexual harassment
  • Ever having been ... (pressured/coerced/etc.)
  • at-risk of ... See At_risk
  • high-risk behaviours
  • unwanted sexual comments or advances
  • verbal insistence
  • sexual insults and teasing
  • ‘Sweet-talk’ someone into having sex
  • persuaded to have sex
  • be tricked into having sex
  • be lured with money or gifts into having sex
  • persuaded or forced into sex (those two things are very different, and should not be linked in a sentence)
  • X is associated with Y -- NOTE: This (and the following terms) need an article about the misuse of statistics.
  • there is a correlation between X and Y [or] X and Y are correlated
  • there is an association/correlation between X and Y, but not statistically significant
  • X times more likely to Y
  • can/may/often leads to...

Frequently misused words and phrases

  • Pedophile activism See: Pedophile advocacy
  • Combating sexual predators
  • Little boys/Little girls (when discussing teenagers)
  • Dangerous sexual behavior
  • High risk sexual activity
  • Children at risk... See At risk
  • Sexual exploitation

Frequently misused legal terminology

  • Lewd/Lascivious behavior
  • Law and order
  • Criminal sexual behavior
  • Victims
  • Victim Restitution
  • Child rape
  • Child abuse (This article need rewriting, as it is poorly written)
  • Obscene/Obscenity
  • Valid consent See "Consent" articles (must list here)
  • Informed consent See "Consent" articles (must list here)
  • Zero tolerance
  • Sexual offenders
  • Sexually explicit conduct (with children)
  • Sexual assault
  • Sexual violence

Frequently misused psychiatric and psychological terminology

  • Grooming (of children) See Grooming (dictionary)
  • Munchhausen syndrome
  • Healthy sexual behavior
  • Cognitive distortions
  • Distorted cognition
  • Distorted beliefs
  • Sexual disorders
  • Sexual trauma
  • Sexualization of children
  • Thinking errors
  • Fundamental thinking error
  • Denial
  • Paraphilias
  • Abnormal sexuality
  • Deviant sexual behavior
  • Empathy deficit
  • Intimacy deficit
  • Mental disorder
  • Repression
  • Dissociation
  • Childhood asexuality
  • Incorrect beliefs
  • Trauma
  • Cognitive restructuring
  • Therapeutic intervention
  • Disclosure
  • Narcissism
  • Heterosexual skills deficiency
  • Sexual addiction
  • Reconceptualize
  • Framing
  • violate social norms/violation of social norms

Frequently misused sociological terminology

  • Taboos in society
  • Normal/Normality
  • Traumatogenic effects of societal attitudes

Frequently exaggerated terminology

The following are existing social issues, most often perpetrated by non-boylovers, that are frequently used to justify increasingly severe punishments and restrictions against boylovers without any logical connection .

  • Child labor
  • Child prostitution
  • Child trafficking
  • Sexual slavery
  • Human trafficking
  • Child trafficking
  • Purity (of children)
  • Innocence (of children)
  • Survivors of child sexual abuse

Relation to "pornography"

The term pornography, especially when referring to child pornography, conjures up images in most people's minds of depictions of horrific and/or graphic sexual abuse. In fact, what is currently defined as "child porn" frequently has little or nothing to do with graphic images of genuine child sexual exploitation. Much of what is currently labelled as "child pornography" includes selfies taken by youths (self-pictures, taken by teenagers of themselves). In some cases, even fully or partially clothed images, as well as artistic depictions of children, are considered to be "child porn". In many countries, any nude, naturist or naked images of a person who is underage--including nude baby pictures--may be considered to be "child porn". As the public is never allowed to view these images, or to know the context in which the images were taken/made, and as these images are rarely even seen by juries, it is impossible to verify that what is being depicted is what the average person would actually consider to be "pornographic".

Moral judgements

  • Immoral/Immorality
  • Violation of boundaries
  • Good touch/Bad touch
  • Innocent children
  • The innocence of children
  • Protecting family values
  • Sexual perversion
  • inappropriate sexual activity
  • Sodomy
  • Unspeakable crime
  • Crimes against nature
  • Evil people
  • Immoral people
  • Harmfulness
  • Robbing children of their innocence
  • Stealing a child's innocence


This is a (dubious?) neologism created by the psychiatrist Albert Ellis, and only appears in very recent dictionaries.

See also

Slippage (dictionary)