The abandonment of children by pedophiles who are done using them for sex is a common theme in anti-pedophilia rhetoric. Dramatica, for example, says, "'Love' in pedophilia is illogical for the simple fact that kids grow up, which means the attraction from fucking a kid will dissipate as the kid grows older." These critics usually do not mention the fact that heterosexual men also tend to find women less attractive as they grow older, unless wife goggles allow them to continue seeing their wife as the beautiful woman she was when they got married. Timothy Dailey writes:
A U.S. Department of Justice report on child sexual exploitation states, "Most preferential sex offenders spend their entire lives attempting to convince themselves and others that they are not perverts and that they love and nurture children."55 The tragic fact is that children who are being preyed upon "have been carefully seduced and often do not realize they are victims. They repeatedly and voluntarily return to the offender." The truth often does not become apparent to them until after they have been abandoned: "Then they see that all the attention, affection, and gifts were just part of a master plan to use and exploit them."56
A child's fear of abandonment is also said to be one motive for why children have sex with adults, especially caregivers.